Dear Salty Vixen, I recently married not more than 5 months ago and I am already having an affair. At first I told myself that it was because my husband changed so dramatically after we got married, but now I just don't know.

The guy I am seeing is everything I ever wanted. We have so much in common that it's amazing we weren't drawn together by some sort of special power. The only problem is that I love my husband with all of my heart and don't see myself leaving him in the near future. I have spoken to him about how I feel and asked him if he wants to stay married, but all he does is turn the question right back to me. I really don't know what to do. Please help.
~ The Newlywed Cheater

Dear The Newlywed Cheater,

First, if you truly love someone the way you say you love your husband, you would never even consider having an affair because of how much it would hurt him. You can use any justification under the sun to try and make it right, but deep down you know it's just plain wrong.

You made a promise to your husband to be faithful and love only him. If you don't feel you can keep your promise then YOU need to rethink your marriage. It's not up to him to make the first move to leave if you are the one unhappy. You obviously need to do some soul searching to find out how you could be the kind of person who could betray someone so carelessly. If there are problems in your marriage, you don't solve them by talking with someone else about them. You have to handle them directly with the source. Only then can you discover what a real relationship is about.

XOXO,