Dear Salty Vixen, My ex and I never had a problem until I started working a lot. Our schedules clashed, and we didn't see each other as often. One weekend he went away. When he came back, he broke up with me. He had sex with someone else. He said he felt so guilty that he could no longer be with me.

Now, he keeps calling and saying he loves me and he wants me back. I know he really knows he made a mistake. He says he will make it up to me. I told him he had to tell his parents he cheated on me, tell the girl she was a mistake with me there, and then we have to build our friendship again. Should I even consider taking him back? -Back Together After He Cheated?

Dear Back Together After He Cheated?,
Your ability to regain trust is a personal decision. No two people are alike. I think you are on the right track with the requests you've made. Your decision has to be made on whether or not you will continually wonder if he's cheating on you.

If he goes away again, will you be worried about his faithfulness? Do you feel you will have a "one-up" over him because he did this? If so, you might reconsider getting back together. A relationship needs an even respect for each other. It is not impossible to build a solid relationship after an affair, but it takes two very committed people with nothing, but honest and open communication. If you feel your relationship will have anything less than that, don't do it.

XOXO